did it hurt when you fell from tennessee
I’ll stop the world and smelt with you
so i did a thing
vintage hooded time-traveling tragedy
pastel dryad circa princess/prince/princex
I don’t even have to tell you why this is important or why you should support the Kickstarter to bring back Reading Rainbow; you know why. So go do it!
we have a right to go anywhere we damn well please.
moshpits are freeing and vital and they belong to everyone.
or, at any rate, they should - just as with so many other supposedly public spaces, they’re subtly (or not so subtly) coded male, and being a girl in a pit can be dangerous, not because of the communal outward-directed violence that makes us all feel alive there, but because as a girl you might get groped or felt up or have “drunk” dudes “accidentally” fall into you, and grab you as they go down. it can be really scary, and having male band members occasionally call that kind of thing out from the stage doesn’t do as much to change the culture as they might think it does. punk as a place of accepted violence and as a place of (largely white) male privilege is a fucking bad combination, and i don’t want to pretend it’s not.
but i need moshpits. i need them politically, because i hate ceding public spaces and being made to feel like i don’t belong in them, and i need them for me, because raging is a way of loving and punk shows are a hell of a lot cheaper than therapy. i need them because raising fists in the air together is one of the ways i know my community and know that i’m part of it, and i need them because i’ve rarely felt so alive. i need them because despite how some of the experience is shitty and some of the people in them horrid, despite being asked to justify myself (“you? you like punk?” [you a girl, you short, you curvy, you who codes as living inside in books, you a girl]), i’ve seen kindness and empathy there: everyone stopping immediately to help a kid find his glasses; everyone picking up the person who’s fallen (fifteen hands reaching for you if you trip); everyone pausing to help the kid with the broken leg get to emergency services; and, this not least of all, at my very first large punk show, all the hugely taller and more experienced dudes helping me get out of the pit to put my ponytail back up after it had come loose, them standing either side of me and making a wall to give me space to do this coded-as-feminine thing, and then helping me get right back into the pit. i need moshpits for the flash of a fierce grin girls sometimes give each other in the thick of them, for that camaraderie and knowing that sometimes being there is a statement.
what’s my view on girls in moshpits? we have a right to go anywhere we damn well please. moshpits are freeing and vital and they belong to everyone.
There are lots of feminist cross stitch samplers out there, but I haven’t been able to find any about trans girls. :( It’s a bit of a mess because I was using this project to test a few new techniques and my machine needle buckled and snapped, but I’d love to make more of these in the future that look better. <3
You know what sucks? being so used to misgendering that you regard someone simply acknowledging your pronouns as an act of kindness.
Have a Romantic Valentine’s Day.
PSA: the umbrella term for people outside the gender binary is non-binary. genderfluid, bigender, agender, genderqueer, androgyne, neutrois, etc. are all under that umbrella and may or may not apply to any particular non-binary individual.
someone who is bigender or genderfluid etc. does not necessarily experience a binary gender at all. a bigender person could some days feel agender and some days androgynous
if a person does experience a binary gender, it doesn’t mean they aren’t non-binary. even if a non-binary person’s preferred pronouns include those associated with their assigned sex at birth, it is not acceptable to dismiss their identity.
two non-binary people can have two very experiences of the same identity. two neutrois people may describe their gender in very different ways, just like two women may describe their gender in very different ways.
non-binary people’s gender presentation can be affected by a lot of different factors, including what makes them feel comfortable physically or emotionally, but also what they can afford, and what is considered acceptable in their school or place of work. presenting “androgynously” is not possible or even desirable for everyone.
please be respectful of everyone’s gender expression. if you don’t understand it, try doing research on your own before asking questions that might seem threatening, invasive, or demanding.
angry social justice kirk
aka canon Kirk
combeferre/courfeyrac is so important
somebody doesn’t have to look completely androgynous in order to identify as genderqueer or non-binary. somebody doesn’t have to look masculine or butch in order to identify as male. somebody doesn’t have to look feminine at all in order to identify as female. you can wear a dress and makeup everyday and still ID as male. gender expression is not the same as gender identity
Bessie Stringfield – Rode solo coast to coast through the deep south in the 1940′s.